My mind is completely at odds with my body. A few days ago, someone asked how the transition period was going and I said it was going well. She told me I seemed relaxed and I agreed that I was pretty chill about the whole thing. Later that day, I reassessed to discover that I had headaches, a stiff neck, a sore back and my face was breaking out. So I decided to commit to 30 days of meditation to even things out.
Disclaimer: I have a hard time with the concept of meditation. I’m an obsessive planner. I live in the future. The concept of thinking only of the present is not intuitive for me. BUT, people who find healthy ways to cope with stress are much happier. AND, sociological research suggests that men take time for themselves when they are caregivers while women don’t. I usually like a good Zumba class or a pedicure, but since things are so all over the place, I’ll try meditating for 10 minutes a day.
Here’s why I’m skeptical of meditation:
- I don’t have time to sit and do nothing.
- It’s impossible for me to think about nothing.
- I don’t have a place that is calm and quiet.
- It seems like a bunch of hooey.
Here’s what makes me want to try it anyway:
- I need to practice being focused.
- My partner gave me a good visual for meditation: imagine you’re on the dock of a river watching your thoughts float by. You can have thoughts, but don’t engage them. Put your thought in the river, watch it float by, then re-focus on your breathing.
- I pick the most quiet of the “not quiet” times/places and set an alarm on my phone for 10 minutes. I listen to the sounds (cars driving by, birds, etc), then try to re-focus on my breathing.
- It could be hooey, but I feel a little better after 5 days.
I’ve tried mornings, afternoons, and evenings. I’ve fallen asleep. I’ve been unable to float my thoughts down the river without engaging them. I’ve been motivated only by the decision to write this post. Some days go well and some don’t…but I’ve got 24 days left in my 30 day challenge. Who’s with me?
*photo credit: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/15/meditation-made-simple-overcoming-obstacles_n_3072226.html